Beautiful piece! This reminds me of something AJ Jacobs surprised me with on his guest appearance of the Tim Ferriss Show: One way to be happier is to not be nostalgic. I considered myself a nostalgic person at the time, and often loved revisiting old memories and reliving those feelings. But now I realize it's toxic to hold ourselves in the past. "One is either constantly progressing or constantly regressing - there is no standing still."
Really great piece. I like the part about rivers running in one direction lapping into the ocean.
Sometimes beginnings and endings in shifts of identity move so suddenly you can see a stark difference in yourself while other times the changes happen so gradually that you don't notice a shift at all.
"I do believe that closure can be be self-enforced. But it does takes fucking discipline. It’s a muscle. That may be tough love, but the truth is: you can’t move on to new chapters when you keep re-reading the old ones again and again and again, even if they tug at your heart, open the door, beg you to stay. Regardless of the texture of closure: whether it’s a person, a place, an old version of yourself, if you linger and never let go, you inadvertently steel your heart against new and beautiful experiences to come. " THIS IS SO FREAKING GOOD AND TRUE
Beautiful piece! This reminds me of something AJ Jacobs surprised me with on his guest appearance of the Tim Ferriss Show: One way to be happier is to not be nostalgic. I considered myself a nostalgic person at the time, and often loved revisiting old memories and reliving those feelings. But now I realize it's toxic to hold ourselves in the past. "One is either constantly progressing or constantly regressing - there is no standing still."
Really great piece. I like the part about rivers running in one direction lapping into the ocean.
Sometimes beginnings and endings in shifts of identity move so suddenly you can see a stark difference in yourself while other times the changes happen so gradually that you don't notice a shift at all.
"Letting go is a practice we’re not naturally very good at". YUP
Letting go is a practice we’re not naturally very good at. YUP
"I do believe that closure can be be self-enforced. But it does takes fucking discipline. It’s a muscle. That may be tough love, but the truth is: you can’t move on to new chapters when you keep re-reading the old ones again and again and again, even if they tug at your heart, open the door, beg you to stay. Regardless of the texture of closure: whether it’s a person, a place, an old version of yourself, if you linger and never let go, you inadvertently steel your heart against new and beautiful experiences to come. " THIS IS SO FREAKING GOOD AND TRUE
if you linger and never let go, you inadvertently steel your heart against new and beautiful experiences to come.
Love this line 🙌🏼